Do I Have to Tell My Partner I Want an Abortion?

Legally, you don’t have to tell anyone you want an abortion, but mentally you might want to. An abortion is a serious medical decision with physical and mental health consequences. Why go through it alone? 

At Reach Out, we’re here to assist you through an unplanned pregnancy. Let’s discuss your situation privately and see how we can help you.

What If My Partner Doesn’t Want Me to Get an Abortion?

You didn’t get here alone — your partner’s opinion matters. What does your pregnancy mean for your relationship? Is it the end, or are you committed to staying together? If you are continuing your relationship, you may want to understand his reasoning for not wanting you to have an abortion.

Is he willing to support you and the child? Does he wish to co-parent or commit to you? Find out what he’s thinking. You also need to check your state’s laws. Will he have to prove paternity to co-parent legally?

Honesty is critical to healthy relationships. Choosing something as significant as abortion without telling him can undermine the trust you have with one another. 

My Partner is Violent. Should I Tell Him?

You should never remain in an unsafe relationship. You deserve more. If you are afraid to tell your partner you are pregnant because he may react violently, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE (7233). You can also visit them online.

They can give you the resources you need to escape an unsafe situation. Their help is available 24/7 for free, and every conversation is strictly confidential. 

Research has shown that pregnancy can cause greater emotional upheaval in relationships that often turn violent. Whether you talk with your partner or not, find freedom from an abusive relationship.

What Are Your Reasons for Considering Abortion?

Many women faced with an unexpected pregnancy feel their only choice is abortion. They don’t realize the many resources and referrals available for other choices. 

For instance, if you’ve considered parenting but feel you cannot afford it, we provide many free resources:

  • Infant formula and baby food 
  • Baby supplies
  • Education
  • Clothing
  • Professional referrals
  • No-cost pregnancy testing and ultrasounds

You could also take a closer look at making an adoption plan if parenting won’t work for you at this time. As an expectant woman, you choose the potential adoptive couple and the future life you want for your child. You are in control of the process.

What Should I Do Next?

Although we do not perform or refer for abortion, we can give you factual information about procedures, side effects, and potential risks. Consider scheduling a no-cost appointment with one of our client advocates. We’re here for you.